Bondage is not a healthy thing for any of us to be in. No matter how a person has been hurt one thing remains the same and that is PAIN. We all can identify with it, for it carries the same characteristics. But we have to be able to move forward in life, But many can’t because they have allowed this bondage thing to keep them a prisoner! It’s like a bird being in a cage if no one opens the door to the cage the bird will remain a prisoner. From what I see we can’t control how people treat us because we have no control over that person. But what we can do is learn from the pain and forgive that person and move on.
Yet so many of us find it hard to move on in life, and that is because you haven’t forgiven that person and ourselves. Yes when we forgive someone it sets us free from them, but then there is another step and that step is for us to forgive ourselves! We are hard on ourselves at times and it’s okay if we lose it every now and then or if we don’t get it right all the time. That’s just life; we learn as we go.
Now you may ask what do you do when it’s been years since the cause of the pain? Well it really doesn’t matter if it’s been recent or years ago, same thing applies, forgive and move on. And until you can do this you will always remain a prisoner and you will never be able to have healthy relationships in life because you won’t allow yourself to be set free. What I have seen is that we become so accustomed to pain and hurt that we begin to act as though it does not exist, We pretend we are okay we make excuses for it. But deep down inside that issue is still there and one day it will show it’s ugly head. And you have to decide do you want to always be a prisoner feeling unloved unhappy, not satisfied with life, miserable all the time, wishing you could be like others? Of course not you are human but who’s the blame? No one but you, only you can control this..
Let today be the beginning of a brand new start that you will no longer be a prisoner to anyone or anything. Happiness is a choice that only you can decided. Think of it like this! Do you think that the person who hurt you is losing sleep over this? He or she is going on with their life and shouldn’t you be doing the same?
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